Category: Musings

General musings and sometime ravings about anything

  • The rebirth of house calls by doctors


    Waiting for a modern house call from my doctor, I drink green tea
    Now this is a much more pleasant way to wait for the doctor!

    Say “2020” and everyone thinks COVID-19, Coronavirus and pandemic. On a brighter side, 2020 marks the rebirth of house calls by doctors. Not the old fashioned kind of house calls where “Doc” climbed the back stairs and knocked on the door. People who knew about house calls often lament their passing as the world became a more hectic, efficiency based place to live.

    I still have childhood memories of Doc Gordon and his little black bag. It had magical, hinged racks inside that yawed opened to reveal a miniature pharmacy. He was our family doctor and the one who opened his office one night so our entire family could come in for the new polio vaccine shots.

    Today my doctor’s house call uses Skype to connect us, face to face, electronically. I sit in the comfort of my home while I wait for my doctor to make his call. Calmly sipping my morning green tea, I finish one online jigsaw puzzle and start on a daily Sudoku.

    Tablet hums and my doctor joins me via computer call

    My Samsung tablet sits open, wedged between my desktop monitor and keyboard. I live in a very technically outfitted home. Rob waits nearby to help if the call comes in and I forget which button to press. Buzz …. Skype call comes in.

    My doctor and I acknowledge that we can see each other. He comments on my haircut and we both laugh. In all the pandemonium of the pandemic, getting a haircut has taken on a whole new level of necessity. I admit that I finally gave in and got it all chopped off.

    He asks how I’m doing and we discuss what brought us together this morning. Five minutes later he signs off and I’m good for the day. No muss, no fuss. Why did I bother putting pants on, I wonder. I push the button to disconnect the call and feel fortunate that today’s technology allows such human interactions despite the need for stay at home recommendations.

    I think I’m going to miss these calls. Maybe our doctor will realize he can “see” more patients in a day using Skype? It might be better for all of us than having patients waiting impatiently in his waiting room. A new norm, born of a pandemic.

    Another deadly virus remembered

    Just as this rebirth of house calls by doctors has brought memories of Doc Gordon, it also brings memories of another deadly virus: polio. Those memories come tumbling into my mind, as vivid as if today were 1955. I recall the family conversations about whether or not to get the Salk vaccine. Even as a child, I understood the facts about polio. It was a disease everyone feared for their children.

    Many families chose not to get the polio vaccine at first but it was our collective agreement that we would. We were fearless and believed in Jonas Salk as a healer and as a man of science. So one night we walked uptown to Doc Gordon’s office. We would get the vaccine as a family. But one of us didn’t.

    Doc Gordon said my Dad’s limp was from polio he must have contracted as a child. Dad always thought he hurt himself falling during a basketball game but Doc said it was more likely he fell because he was ill. Before that revelation, I had bought my Dad’s story that his leg was carved out of wood and each hair was inserted by a master craftsman.

    He even let us stick pins in it one day and never blinked. I think now that Doc Gordon had more to go on for his diagnosis than just seeing the limping gate.

    Will we ever learn from our mistakes?

    Associations of ideas and concepts are what get my mind to musing. Today I cannot help but wonder if future generations will learn from our foolishness during this pandemic. After all, we as a society apparently did not learn from the Spanish Flu fiasco of 1918, nor through polio. Some people today prefer to get their information from strangers on the internet.

    Personally, I think humans are the only animals that don’t learn anything from those who came before them. Even crows can pass along the need to be wary of men wearing Nixon masks. Here we are, in 2020, surrounded by people who think the Coronavirus is a hoax.

    Doc Gordon has lived fondly in my memory all my life

    I was still just a child when Doc Gordon died, quite tragically. After carrying his two boys to safety, he ran back into his burning home for his wife. Neither came out. Over the years I’ve thought of them often. Doc and his boys. My mother said they went to go live with an aunt. I was never sure that was true or if she said that to calm me.

    I remember him as kind and caring. He once visited my brother who was sick, in bed. After giving him a shot, he broke off the tip of the syringe and gave it to my brother to use as a water gun. Moments like those are what we are thinking about as we speak of “the good old days.” No rules and regulations to protect us from ourselves. We lived and learned by the rules of common sense.

  • Happy anniversary to us

    Rob and Marilyn cutting wedding cake at post-wedding party in Albany condo
    Married in Las Vegas, we partied in Albany and then in Buffalo afterward. Twice the cake!

    Our anniversary lunch-dinner was more elaborate than our wedding day dinner. After we married at the famous Little White Chapel, we had just enough time to change into travel clothes and grab a quick dinner at a Johnny Rockets at a casino before moving on to the airport for our red-eye flight home with our surprise news plastered on my chest via the T-shirt in the photo, above.


    I was reminded that today is our wedding anniversary by my older (ha!) sister’s electronic card in my inbox this morning. And then Facebook’s compilation of photos. Both did a great job in their selections.

    We were an unlikely pairing from the get-go. Robert and I shared a middle class upbringing and I spent two years at the same university he graduated from, BUT the elephant in our room was age. He was not yet four-years-old when I arrived as a freshman. Or is it a freshwoman these days??

    He was so young when we met that when I look back on photos I wonder at my boldness. In my defense, I did try to fix him up with a couple of young women I knew. He was such a nice guy and smart and ….. well, they were much to involved in partying to care. In the end it was their loss; and my gain.

    Celebration

    If you know us, you’ll understand our anniversary blow out took the form of an eye appointment for me and then lunch/dinner at a nearby Carrabba’s. That is one of my favorite restaurants. First, it has lots of booths so you can carry on a conversation with the people in the booth and not have to listen to everyone else’s discussions. Second, it has professional waitstaff who are very well trained. Third, but not last, it serves the best steak in town. It is, after all, Carrabba’s Italian Grill. Not that I had steak, mind you, because their chicken Marsala with mushrooms is very tasty, as well.

    Rob also had a $20 gift card so it wasn’t a big out of pocket expense. Not that we pay cash for anything. This is where knowing us, especially knowing Rob, comes into the equation. He is all about research. He puts stickers on credit cards to remind us (that means me) which ones are for restaurants, or for gas, motels, etc.

    I do not clip grocery coupons. Never have. But over one memorable several-year span I bought thousands of dollars of books for free. Walked into the store, made my selections, handed over a fist full of $5-off coupons and left with nary a dime leaving my pocket.

    When we came home from our world journey, there was about $300 worth of coupons in the storage unit. Fortunately, I used them all up before Waldenbooks went out of business.

    Cheap, thrifty, frugal or what?

    Sometimes I say we are cheap but that really is not correct. We will pay good money (where do these terms come from?) for a piece of art we like but we will not pay any money for a cheap trinket or an ugly vase.

    Thrifty sounds like we only shop at dollar stores and that isn’t true, either. We have standards. We will go to the local flea and farmer’s market for specific sorts of items like sunglasses. Who would pay more than $7 for a pair of sunglasses anyway?

    Frugal sounds like a cake Grandma Moses would have made for Christmas. It might fit us, though. After all, we got married on the fly, returning home through Vegas from an artificial intelligence conference and Rob wrote off part of his expenses.

    I think I just worked around to savvy. You have to love a word with double Vs, yes? There may be calendar years between us, but there is no gap when it comes to money. We both worked hard for it; we both benefit from putting money aside in savings for our future; we both understand that choices have consequences; and we have discussed and agree on a lifestyle.

    No wonder today is a happy anniversary.